Talk in Mens' Language

If you often irritated by men’s ‘catching power’ to understand the most simple instructions. You are not alone. I and some friends have experience it. One of my friends has often complained her husband did what he did not ask and ignore her request, at least from her perspective. If she protests, her husband just said, it should be done by maid. ‘Misunderstanding’ pattern like this is usually happen, the wives want they ’standard’ run, while the husband feel that what they do is “more than enough”.

“It’s like two people talking in two different languages, one with English, one with French, so do not know,” said Rhona Raskin, therapeutist sex and family, owner of Rhona.com. Often, the difference is more vague than the example of the differences in the two languages. Here are some suggestions from Raskin to ‘communicate’ with the men in the correct language.

1. Do not ask him to ‘read’ your mind

If there is a wedge in the heart, say clearly. You may be thinking, attitude or movement that you do is enough for men to understand what you mean. For known, because one thing and another, male is a bad reader of body language. For men, what is not said is none. So, women often blame the man as the person who is less/not sensitive or not able to understand your feelings. Believe me, with the men, words is more powerful than a thousand body language.

2. Talk clearly but tactical

Say what you want clearly, with words that are not attacked him and cause ‘against reactions’. He can response your accuse words like “now you never want to accompany me to the shopping mall anymore” with hundred reasons that through on his mind at that time or hit his dumb wall. Better if you said “I nostalgic the moment like our first date, walking together, dining at our favourite restaurant.” Usually that approach is more effective.

3. Do not expect too much

I don’t know why, usually men are not good enough in verbal expression. “Most of men tend to measure everything in terms of action, especially in the emotional problems,” Raskin said. So, if your partner from the beginning suddenly stutter when you ask him to said ‘I Love You’, do not hope he will suddenly totally changed as your wish. If you want to change it, identify with the real action instead of words. Because men can understand it more quickly. Another example, when he promises something to you, do not expect he will fulfill it soon. Remind him over and over, cause maybe he do it just because it tends to avoid problems with you.

4. Never push him with a difficult question

The questions such as “Am I obesity?” Or “Where better, I wear green dress or black?” Usually got a silent answer or nonsense. For men, that questions was a dilemma. They afraid, that any answers given will make you offended. So, never ask him to answer a questions like that.

5. Wisely choose the right time

Proverbial “wise people know when to open and close the mouth” may be applied very appropriately to communicate with the men. It waste the time if you talk to the men while he is busy watching football or doing his hobby. The most appropriate time to tell him something, Raskin said, is when he is ‘fresh’, such as after bathing in holiday morning.

6. Take a good assumption

Actually, most of men is good person. If he doesn’t say anything after you angry, do not assume that he doesn’t care about you or your aspiration. Most of men are thinking, that the problems will be completed with a depth of think and deed,not with the mouth competition. Trust your intuition when you will marry him. At that time, of course you think that he is a good man and your soulmate. I think, this need to always keep in mind before you attract the wrong conclusions.

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Easy Ways to Eat 5 Fruits & Vegetables a Day

Over the past few years, we’ve been bombarded with warnings about rising obesity, cancer and diabetes rates. Nearly every report makes a strong argument for the link between disease and diet. Government guidelines are advising us to eat a minimum of five portions of fruit and vegetables every day -- even more if we can manage, since the consensus is that you can’t eat too many vegetables. The trouble is, for many of us eating even five portions can seem like a serious challenge. When we work long hours, we naturally reach for convenience foods, almost all of which are carb-based.

Cooking at home is a lost art, with the sound of something sizzling on the stove being replaced by the beep of the microwave. This article will try to address this problem and offer some quick, easy and delicious ways to increase your daily intake of fruit and vegetables. The importance of plant foods in your diet can’t be overemphasized; they make you look and feel better and provide you with more steady energy throughout the day than convenience food can. Add a few of these tips into your daily routine, and you’ll be doing your body a huge favor. Remember, one portion is considered to be about 80 grams.

1- Smoothies
Buying an all-natural (100% fruit, no sugar added) smoothie is an easy way to boost your fruit intake. Some companies even sell vegetable smoothies. But if you’re prepared to spend 10 minutes in the kitchen, you can make a smoothie that will give you five fruit portions in one gloriously sweet hit. Two kiwis, two bananas, a handful of grapes, a handful of strawberries, and 250 ml of pure pressed apple or orange juice will do the trick. This is a full breakfast or post-workout energy boost, and if you want to add some whey protein or spirulina powder into the mix, all the better. The beauty of a well-built smoothie is that the wide variety of colors of fruit means you’re getting a wide variety of nutrients: Vitamins A, B2, B6, C, E, folate, niacin, potassium, not to mention dietary fiber. You can just as easily make a vegetable smoothie as long as you use fresh, raw ingredients. If you throw some tomato juice into a vegetable smoothie, make sure that it’s not full of sugar or salt – common hidden ingredients in commercial vegetable juices.

2- Incorporate vegetables into your snacking
Try substituting something healthy for your mid-morning coffee break snack. Raw carrots, celery and other crunchy vegetables will be just as filling, and will help you avoid the drop in energy that comes after eating a high-sugar snack. Consider this: A chocolate chip muffin can contain around 700 calories. For the average man, this amounts to nearly one third of the recommended daily caloric intake, and will cause a monumental sugar crash later on. Instead of eating something that has roughly the nutritional value of an old shoe, replace it with a handful of fresh vegetables. An average carrot may contain as few as 32 calories, celery as little as 8. You could eat a pound of vegetables and still have consumed far fewer calories than you would have with that muffin. If the veggies themselves are too boring, add some hummus dip for some protein or a low-fat yogurt-based dip, but skip the dollop of ranch dressing.

3- Add fruit/berries to your breakfast
Adding something extra to your breakfast is another really quick and simple way to increase your fruit intake. If you have yogurt or cereal at breakfast, sprinkle a handful of fruit into the bowl. Raspberries, blackberries and blueberries taste great and they‘re packed with nutrients. Fresh berries can be expensive, but you can just as easily thaw a handful of frozen berries in the microwave and add them to your cereal. Adding a chopped banana will provide you with a little energy boost at the start of the day. The list of potential fruits is endless, and we don’t want to add all of them here, but if you want to keep things interesting and give yourself a range of nutrients, switch it up every so often.

4- Double up on servings
At lunch and dinner, try increasing the amount of vegetables you put on your plate. If it sounds obvious, it is. Many people put far fewer vegetables on their plate than the standard portion size of 80 grams. To make sure you’re getting your five a day, try to have two different types of vegetables in a meal. This has multiple benefits: by eating a larger amount of vegetables, you will crowd out other foods on your plate, like potatoes and meat, and chances are you eat plenty of those anyway. Reducing the higher-calorie foods (but not eliminating them altogether) can help you lose weight in addition to improving your overall health. Forget the popular misconception that fresh vegetables are expensive. Compared to microwave meals and other processed goods, vegetables are surprisingly affordable, and frozen vegetables can go a very long way and last a very long time in your freezer without compromising their healthiness.

5- Canned and frozen count too
Fruits and vegetables that have been canned or frozen retain their nutrients just as well as fresh vegetables, and in some cases, even more effectively. Frozen veggies are quick to prepare, which means getting your five a day gets even easier. Canned sweet corn, for example, can be microwaved in under two minutes, and frozen vegetables can be steamed in the microwave almost as quickly. This means you really have no excuse to be avoiding vegetables at dinner. A selection of canned and frozen vegetables with your main course, and some canned fruit for dessert (avoid fruit that is in syrup) and you can easily consume five portions of fruits and vegetables in just one sitting.
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Add all these tips together, and you could easily eat between 12 and 15 portions every day without making any major changes to your lifestyle. All it takes to give yourself a huge nutritional boost is a little planning. You may inadvertently find some unexpected fringe benefits -- lower shopping bills, more energy and a slimmer waistline. It’s hard to overemphasize just how valuable getting your five (or more) each day can be. Try making sure you eat at least five fruits and vegetables every day for a week, and you may be pleasantly surprised.
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