Special Gifts for Your Loved

Here are the 8 special gifts for the one or anyone you love:

1. Presence

I think, the presence of someone who loved is the priceless gift. Indeed, we can also present by mail, phone, photo, fax or e-mail. However, with be beside him/her, you can share feelings, attention and affection in a more intensive and intact. The quality of presence is also important. So, make your presence as causes of his/her happiness.

2. Listen

Few people are able to give this gift, because, most people prefer to listened, rather than listen. Has long been known that the harmonious relationship between people is determined by the willingness to listen to each other. Give it to him/her. By providing all attention on his/her words, indirectly, we also have to foster patience and humility. To be able to hear well, make sure that you are in a good situation and relax and can capture what was he/she says fully. Look his/her face. Do not interrupt, criticize and judge. Let him/her finish his/her words. This allows you to give the appropriate response after that. No need to make a discussion or evaluation. Just thanks will be very sweet for him/her.

3. Silence

Like in the words, there is strength in the silence. Silence can be used to punish, banish or confusing people. But more than that, silence can also show our devotion to someone because we give him/her ‘a space’. Especially if in the day-to-day we are eager to advise, organize, criticize and even complain.

4. Freedom

Love someone does not mean that we have full rights to manage or have the person’s life. Can we claim to love someone if we always bridle him/her? Give freedom is one manifestation of love. The meaning of freedom is not “you can do everything you want”. More of that, give the freedom is give him/her a totally trust to take responsibility for everything that he/she do or wanna do.

5. Magnificence

Who is unhappy, if the one who love suddenly come into being more handsome or beautiful? Look beautiful and shapely is also a gift too! No fault if you give it every day! Beside of the beauty of personal appearance, you can give the beauty atmosphere at home. Vase and beautiful fresh flowers in the family room or dining table that fit beautifully, for example.

6. Positive Response

Unconsciously, we often give negative response of the mind, attitude or action of people we loved. As though no rightness of him/her and the absolutely rightness only from us. In this time, try to give a positive response. Say it clearly and upright. Just try to remember, how many time in the past week you thanks him/her to all the things that he/she do it for you? Also remember, have you praise him/her? Both it, thanks and praise (also apology), is the gift of love which is often forgotten.

7. Willingness Budge

Not all problems worthy to a squabble. Especially to become a serious quarrel. You should consider whether a love relationship should be sacrificed just because that problem? When you think of this, it means you are ready to give the gift ‘willingness budge’. Alright, you may complain or angry because he came late. But if it once, why should be the trigger of conflict that drag on? Willingness to budge can also fade resentment and invites us to realize that there are no perfect human beings in this world.

8. Smile

Believe it or not, the power of smile is very great. Smile, especialy given with all of heart and soul, can thaw an ungainly relationship, encourage despair, and make anything better. Smiles is also a signal that we open up to the world around us. So, when the last time you give a sweet smile for your beloved?

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